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7 Ways to Stop Chasing & Start Attracting Girls

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You get to a point in life where you’re tired of going out, trying to “pick up chicks” or “get laid”. You get to this point somewhere in your mid to late 20’s. Maybe earlier, maybe later, but it happens. You get sick of chasing. If you’re at this point right now, then this piece of advice was written just for you.

You’re unhappy because you’re doing something you either don’t enjoy, or that you’re not seeing results from. So the first step is to change what you’re doing. Stop chasing. Stop going out to your usual scenes. Stop whatever you’re doing that’s making you unhappy. Take this break and reevaluate.

Know that what you were doing in the past amounted to chasing. You were chasing women, and hey, maybe you had some successes here and there, but you feel unfullfilled because it’s not satisfying. What you need to learn is how to attract women. How to make them want you and come to you. How to make them think about you, text you, and literally beg for your attention, for your time, for the addictively-good sex that you can give them.

With that said, take a break from chasing and practice these 7 ways to start attracting women:

1. Become known for something, a skill or success
Women are naturally drawn to men who possess at least one useful skill, and have achieved success from using their skills. That skill can be something as basic as being funny or telling compelling stories. It could be a skill like sculpture or drawing. Whatever it is that you enjoy doing, find interesting and keeps you curious about learning, go do that thing. Put in the time, energy and effort required to learn that skill, then practice it so that you can become successful at it. When you’re known for that skill or the success you achieved, girls will be attracted to you. The more recognized you are, the better.

2. Stand out, never fit in
When you stand out, girls recognize you and they’re drawn to you. They want to know who you are and why you make them feel like you’re different. When you fit in with the crowd, you become anonymous, just another face among many. When you stand out, the opposite happens: it’s like there’s a glow to your presence and women just want to gravitate towards you. This is what you want. Guys who attract women stand out. Dudes who just fit in, they have to chase and make an effort to approach women. There are many ways to stand out. You can stand out physically by looking more fit, stronger and athletic than most of the other people in the room. You can stand out in the way that you speak, so that people start to move towards you to hear the interesting things you’re saying. You can stand out by knowing the right people in the room, by showing you’re connected to the most powerful around. You can also stand out by being mysterious.

3. Be mysterious
Mysterious behavior only works to a certain extent. The more mysterious you actually are about your private, personal life, the better. If you have to consciously act mysterious, it will not work out as well in your favor, but it’s possible to do. Keep in mind that being mysterious only attracts women who are intrigued by mystery. The more intellectual type of girls who enjoy art and dark humor are the ones who like mysterious guys. Go this route if you like those types of girls. If not, the next tip works all across the board.

4. Be a leader, not a follower
You hear it all the time: “be a leader, not a follower”. There’s a reason why this advice is repeated. Leaders are often happier, more successful and get with better looking women without much effort. Women are naturally attracted to the leader of a group, because they see the leader as the most worthy mate. Leaders are confident. They possess desirable traits such as courage, strength, intelligence, a witty personality, and are responsible for the group’s well-being. These are many of the main qualities a woman looks for, and will be instantly attracted to when they see a man who is a leader. Leaders stand out, followers just fit in.

5. Take calculated risks and win
What women want is simple when you see this picture. Women want leaders, and specifically winners. You can be a leader but still fail spectacularly at something and lose favor with the ladies. Women want winners because they competed, took calculated risks and won. Winning is the outcome of skill and luck. A man who is skillful but unlucky will eventually find more struggle and failure than someone who is skillful but also fortunate. Winning comes with many benefits both material, emotional and psychological. Studies show that winners tend to get such a psychological high from winning that their behavior makes them continue to win, while losers will be so downtrodden they will unconsciously do things that make them continue to lose. Take calculated risks using your smarts and skills to win when luck is on your side.

6. Speak your mind
Everyone has opinions, sure, but when you speak your mind in a confident, persuasive way, women find that attractive. Girls who like smart, opinionated guys will turn their attention to you if you are speaking about something they agree or disagree with. If they agree with you, they will immediately feel a connection because you are expressing ideas and beliefs that they feel. If they disagree with you, there is still the chance that they get turned on by the drama of having to debate you. If you win the argument with women who disagree with you, chances are they will start to feel attraction for you.

7. Be a source of fun and adventure
For those of you who just want to have a good time and enjoy the company of a sexy girl, then you just need to learn how to have fun and be adventurous. Women obviously want to be around fun, adventurous guys who show them a good time. And clearly no one wants to spend time with someone who is boring and not adventurous. Try new things, go on road trips, seek out experiences you haven’t had, and by living an eventful life filled with joy and adventure, you will attract plenty of girls who want to do things with you.

These are the main ways you can start attracting women today, and they all involve ways that you can control your behavior and work on yourself. By now you’ve probably heard a lot of self-improvement tips, but these 7 points are very simple and doable. They will help you along the way on this weird, unexplained journey we call life. Stop chasing, start attracting. You get what you want by being the man who attracts what he wants. From there it’s simply a matter of showing up.

Written by Ben Bien
This article does not necessarily represent the views of Girls Gone Wild.

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XMas and New Years Ideas on How to Get Laid

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The Holidays. Note the plural. That’s because there’s 2. In December. No one says “happy holidays” in reference to Thanksgiving or July 4th. Just wouldn’t make sense. So when we’re thinking Holidays, we’re thinking Christmas and New Years. Two. Two days that open up plenty of chances to get your dick sucked and bang as many questionable women as you can during the extended break from your boring, soul-crushing 9-6 job.

This is the time of year when your “game” has to be at its peak to really make the past 365 days count. Most of us probably haven’t achieved jackshit in the past year. So these next two weeks are an opportunity for redemption. It’s clutch time. It’s the bottom of the 9th. You have to prove to yourself that you’re still a man, that you’ve still got a healthy sack. That you’re virile, attractive, persuasive and confident enough to get at least one decent lay in. Just one. Start with that simple goal of 1. From there you can get more ambitious and go for the next girl, then the next. Hey, why not even pitch a couple of “girlfriends” on a threesome. You only live once. Say that. That always works. Or just imply it. Imply that the year is ending, that you’re the one she should enjoy this fleeting time with, and that you’ll make it good. Make her giggle, laugh, moan, scream, come. In that order. Just don’t make her think.

With that said, let’s get into some ideas on how to get laid on Christmas and New Years Eve, These might not all work, but hey, better to have an arsenal of strategies than to go into the field with nothing but your dick and a smile, right?

> Google is your all-knowing friend. Set aside a couple of hours to google the shit out of where you want to go and find the best possible places that will have lots of single girls. Sounds easy enough. Because that’s the “research” phase. Go to that event or party, or get invited, and be charming as hell. Wear nice but comfortable clothes. Plan out the logistics of where to go afterwards and how you’ll get back to your place.

> Don’t want to overthink it? Fine. Go anywhere. Go barhopping downtown. Clubbing. Go barhopping across a local strip of dive bars. Find women drinking and smoking and you will find women who want sex. Be the guy she wants to have sex with. This is the most basic idea. It’s the game plan that people do on the weekends during the normal days. It works but isn’t that different.

> Go to the mall and randomly flirt with women, even the ones working at the stores. Whatever. Who cares. Talk to them, get a feel for whether they’re single and they like you, and make plans with them to go out.

> Rent a cabin and meet up snow bunnies on the slopes. If you love snowboarding or skiing you’re probably already doing this and you’ll enjoy it. Great place to meet other chicks into that kind of snow-related stuff too.

> Go to Vegas or any place with casinos. Atlantic City, Reno, Indian casinos. You know women who go to a casino for the holidays are ready and willing for sex.

> Dress semi-formal and go crash parties. Make sure you bring your favorite bottle of liquor or wine. Something good that at least looks expensive. Dressing semi-formal is your best bet to slip into any sort of party without them noticing. You’ll fit in but also slightly stand out. Chances are, people will be too busy having fun they won’t notice. It’s a party, people aren’t supposed to know everyone. If they do, then it’s too intimate of a gathering and you don’t want to be there any way. If anyone asks you who invited you or who you know at the party, just say “John”. If any of the dudes are giving you a hard time, don’t make a scene. Just leave and find a better party.

> Go to TJ. Now there’s an idea. Self-explanatory. Fly to warmer, more mellow parts of Mexico if you want to be fancy. Bask in the sun.

> Think about the one place you’ve always wanted to go see. Go there. Get a hotel room near downtown and soak in the nightlife. Chicago, San Diego, New York, Miami, New Orleans, Paris, where ever.

Whatever you do, don’t do something boring. Life is short. Do you want to look back on your life and see that it was uneventful? You can visit family any time during the year. You did that last year. You can visit and spend warm and fuzzy time with them on other holidays. But this is your time. This is the end of the year. These are two of the holidays when women are most horny and looking to blow off steam, among other things. They want to enjoy themselves. And they don’t want to be alone. It’s the perfect storm for a fuckfest. Are you going to pass that up?

Written by Ben Bien.
This article does not necessarily represent the views of Girls Gone Wild.

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It’s Too Easy to See Girls Naked. Here’s Why.

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You reach a point in life when seeing naked women becomes too easy. That’s especially true if you work for Girls Gone Wild. But it’s true for anyone. It could be your naked wife, girlfriend, or whatever chick you’re banging for the night. Or, you could be a lonely dude looking at porn on the Internet. Nights spent staring at a glowing screen, fooling your brain into thinking it’s real. You get tired of it and want to see something real without putting in too much effort, without facing possible rejection, so you drop by a strip club. Have at least $10 in singles with you and you’re in. Cheap and easy-peasy, but not deeply satisfying. Like after a McDonald’s meal, you’re left wanting.

Nowadays, seeing a woman naked becomes trivial. Supermodels and famous actresses alike are going topless. It gets boring because there’s no tension, no mystery, no suspense. Just a click or a $20 bill away from getting a full view.

What’s left? Has the world and our minds become so saturated with porn and repetitive lays that we simply don’t want to see tits anymore?

No. Of course not. There is hope. Men will always want to see naked women, but what matters most, what’s truly meaningful, is seeing particular girls get naked–the ones who cover up, who act professional and carry themselves with elegance, dignity and poise. They’re the ones you want but you won’t go after because you’re afraid. You’re afraid of going after what you want and getting rejected, so what do you do? You go for the easy shit. The questionable women at the bar throwing down shots and swearing like sailors. Strip clubs. Porn sites. You hit bottom and order an escort. We’ve all been there, man. And what I’m saying is that deep down you know that quick and easy stuff is never satisfying. Our true nature as men demands variety and challenges.

So what do you do? Pursue the girls you want and get into a relationship with them? That will just put you in a cycle of dependency. The hotness of the girl wanes. The more you see her, the more the mystery slips away. Her naked body becomes too familiar after the 3rd lay. 5th if she’s extremely beautiful. Even if your rotating chicks and build a harem you lose something in the controlled satisfaction, the predictability of it all. Some men look at Hugh Hefner and see a role model, an alpha male who’s achieved any man’s wildest dreams. When I look at him I see a sad old man clinging to any semblance of youth. Would I trade places with him right now to have what he has and be as old as him? Fuck no. Why? because it’s all so controlled and predictable.

If you buy this view, then the only exciting solution is to have as many passionate flings with the girls you truly want while you’re still young or at least under age 50. That hot girl you see around school or work or whatever? Get her to meet you up. Tap that. Bed her until you get bored and be honest about that boredom. Embrace it. Embrace the temporariness of the fling, and make every fuck session as passionate, raw and intense as you can. Hell, it doesn’t even have to be about the sex. Get to the point where she likes you and you know that, and you know you’ve achieved a result you wanted. Bonus points if she strips down to her panties and you take it from there. This same exact idea applies in the work you do. Do what you want, even if it seems challenging, even if there’s a chance to fail. “Rejection is better than regret”

I know, I know, easier said than done. But that’s the point. It’s supposed to be challenging, hard, and unpredictable. You’re supposed to challenge yourself, face possible failure, and grow from it. Otherwise you’re just spinning your wheels, doing the most boring easy crap while there’s a full world of adventure and excitement on the other side of the door.

Written by Ben Bien
This article does not necessarily represent the views of Girls Gone Wild.

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New Trend: Get Laid through Couch Surfing

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The age-old question males discuss is how to get laid. And as simple as it sounds, the problem is a complex one with many different angles and answers.

The basic way is to go out at night to parties, bars, clubs and other social gatherings where you can meet women. Either that, or meet girls through your social networks.

But thanks to the Internet and increased worldwide travel, there’s a new, more creative way to do it: couch surfing.

CouchSurfing.com helps connect travelers with temporary places to stay. You can use it to find a place to crash while travelling, or to offer your space for people to stay at. Whether you’re hosting or staying as a guest, the couch surfing method gives you the opportunity to meet girls who tend to be more on the adventurous side. That’s the main benefit. Being attractive, interesting and closing the deal is really up to you. Couch surfing simply puts you in touch with the type of girls who are more daring and open to new experiences. These also tend to be the type of ladies who are down for sex immediately if they like you.

When BusinessInsider reported on this trend, they used the example of one Riccardo G., a Couch Surfing host who claims to have slept with 5 out of the 8 women he let stay at his place. There’s even a site called CouchBangs.com that shares stories people send in about how they happened to have sex while couch surfing.

From what we’ve read, the chances of you getting laid are better if you’re the host, but it could happen if you’re a guest, too, depending on how good your game is. The psychology is simple: if you’re the host, you’re in a position of power and the female traveler feels grateful that you’ve provided her with a place to rest. And by being a guest, you’ve shown that you’re a man who lives for adventure–a trait that women instantly find attractive.

All this means is that if you want to maximize your notch count and get laid more often, you’ll need to explore creative options and be more adventurous. Have a cool apartment in an exciting town? Be a host and let cute girls come to you for a place to stay.

Written by Ben Bien
This article does not necessarily represent the views of Girls Gone Wild.

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5 Reasons NOT to Date a Girl with an Eating Disorder: a Reply to Return of Kings

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Nothing is funnier than seeing a bunch of sensitive feminists and politically correct beta males get offended by mere words; especially when the author of those words is a commentator just exercising his right to Free Speech.

Tuthmosis, a writer for Return of Kings, courted the Internet’s ire when he posted an article entitled “5 Reasons to Date a Girl with an Eating Disorder”. The article went viral and crashed their servers after lots of pissed off feminists and eating-disorder-sensitive people alike stormed the site with their outraged comments.

Since Girls Gone Wild is a veritable authority on all things related to hot chicks with daddy issues, we thought we’d weigh in with an alternative view, even though we’ve got nothing against RoK. Their writing is pretty funny/useful, and expresses a unique voice necessary in today’s overly PC/feminist/anti-men world. But with this particular article, we respectfully disagree on all five of their reasons. With that said, here are 5 Reasons NOT to date a girl with an Eating Disorder:

5. Dating her will cost more in terms of time, emotional energy and money for therapy. As RoK pointed out, if she has this disorder, she can have other issues and neuroses as well, and eventually she’ll need costly treatment to deal with that baggage. Sure, she may have “money of her own” but if she depletes that cushion and you’re dating her, you could be on the hook for funds. Last time we checked, the cost of groceries and eating out at good restaurants costs much less than having to go to therapy or rehab, which can easily run in the $1000’s.

4. Dating implies plural meetups with this girl over time, which can eventually lead to a relationship, right? So why would any sane, rational and attractive guy want to have multiple dates over time with a girl who’s got a serious illness that makes her thin, less healthy, and probably not as energetic as a girl who stays fit and has normal, healthy eating habits? Would we film her? Maybe, if she’s cute. Would we have a one-night stand with her? Okay, why not. But date? Thanks, but no thanks. The hottest girls in the world aren’t the ones who are bone-thin and struggling with a debilitating psychological-biological body image problem. If you believe that, then you’re the type of guy who’s into those scrawny, skeleton-revealing runway models who believe that “haute couture” clothes should hang from one’s body. If that’s for you, ok, but that’s really not what we—and most guys we’d wager—find attractive. And no, a hot girl isn’t one who is constantly at the gym working on her six pack and having muscles either. The most beautiful women in the world, in our opinion, are the ones who have feminine curves, who can really fill out a dress with her ample bust and ass, and who is self-disciplined just enough to keep that hour-glass figure through pilates or whatever. In the history of mankind, no dude ever refused a girl because she had some belly fat. The human body, particularly that of women, is supposed to have some fat. That’s natural, and a show of good health. Biologically that fat provides warmth and back-up in case of food shortage. That’s also why skinny chicks tend to be colder to the touch.

3. Sex with a healthy, robust girl—the kind who works out 2-3 times a week, does yoga, or is a dancer—is far, far better than banging a thin, bony anorexic chick who doesn’t eat enough or stay active. That’s because girls who are normal, fit and balanced through doing activities like cheerleading, volleyball, ice skating, etc. have more energy, stamina, and a sexier physique. Just ask yourself, would you rather bang Kate Upton or Kate Moss, if both were compared at the same age level? I think most men would answer Kate Upton all the way.

2. Healthy, natural, fit men who reject the scrawny-runway-model expectation prefer robust women who aren’t “fragile and vulnerable”. We like adventure, traveling, hiking, surfing, rafting, and simply staying active. And we like healthy women who do the same and can enjoy such activities. Dating a sporty, robust woman who a fit and healthy body means you can do more stuff with her (and to her) and she can take it and enjoy it. Dating a girl with an eating disorder sounds like it involves a lot of problems, even when doing simple stuff like going out for dinner because she will refuse to go to places that might “trigger” her desire to overeat. If she’s fussy about something basic like food, she’s probably going to be fussy and OCD about tons of other shit too, which will lead to arguments. Why would you want to deal with that?

1. No but seriously, who wants to date a girl with any disorder to begin with, (unless of course you also have the issue and can relate)? If she’s anorexic or bulimic, that usually means she’s too thin, which is only seen as sexy to people who love the look of those malnourished runway models. If that’s what Tuthmosis and Return of Kings prefers, then hey, to each his own. Not everyone can or wants to date thin supermodels. With that in mind, we’ll keep trucking along in the company of real, natural, energetic, fun and healthy amateur girls who tend to go wild after midnight. Let’s just say we don’t plan to make a Girls Gone Wild: Anorexic Edition any time soon.

Update: Heh, there’s actually an online petition with 9,000 signatures calling for the removal of RoK’s article. Guess the First Amendment doesn’t apply anymore.


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Written by Ben Bien
This article does not necessarily represent the views of Girls Gone Wild.

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5 Signs You DON’T Really Need a Wingman

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After another night of drunken debauchery, your sarcastic narrator here on the GGW blog reports that he successfully laid a sexy costumed girl under the stars, on an apartment building roof top. It was a majestic, memorable fuck, and it happened because I followed my own advice in yesterday’s article, How to Get Laid on Halloween.

But don’t mistake this as post-coital bragging. I almost went home empty handed because I tried to rely too heavily on a wingman, a wingman who I don’t even know that well. Long story short, the guy was totally smashed and botched not just one but two conversations I had set up with some scantily-clad sexy Halloween girls. I don’t blame him though, it was my fault for depending on that weak friendship for wingman support, and it was my fault for not being clear that he needed to keep it together. With that said, the events of Halloween 2013 taught me extremely helpful lessons, one of which challenges the misconception that wingmans will help you get laid. That’s not always true.

Here are the 5 signs you DON’T really need a wingman:

5. You already know how to have fun and meet new people on your own. A wingman helps you look less like a loner, sure, but that only matters if you care and feel self-conscious about being alone. Experiment with different situations, and learn how you can start conversations and meet new women by yourself as soon as you enter a room.

4. You’ve developed a “one man act” that’s appealing in a mysterious way. This is an extension of #5, and it’s a sign you’ve practiced being solo in social situations enough so that you are completely comfortable with it. Your “solo” status is a strength if you can instantly talk passed it without having to explain yourself. If you’re already funny, interesting and engaging, you don’t need a buddy to help you out.

3. You prefer meeting girls who are the “outsider” type. These are the kind who aren’t always the center of attention, and who also hang out by themselves even when they’re with a group.

2. Your wingman is either a total alcoholic, drug addict, cockblocker, or simply a goofball who can’t focus on the goal of meeting and bedding women. If ANY of these describe the friend(s) you’re with, you are definitely better off just going out and meeting women by yourself. At least if you fail, you can learn why the things you did and said didn’t work, without blaming your inept wingman.

1. You have so much game you can talk two girls into having a threesome. Yes, a threesome, as in yourself and two other girls. Why not? It is possible. And only you can know that this is possible by attempting it and succeeding. That success becomes an experience that creates a very strong foundation for your confidence, which means you’ll more likely close the deal on future threesomes successfully. If that’s the case, having a wingman is just inviting another variable for potential cockblockage or failure.

Closing Thoughts: The only time to really hang with a wingman is if he’s your real friend who you’ve known for years. You two should just be hanging out as bros having fun, telling stories and jokes over good food and drinks. That natural chemistry is enough to attract girls on its own without you having to consciously wingman each other. And if you are out to help each other get laid, you both clearly share that agreed upon goal. Otherwise, nut up and try going at by own independent self.

Written by Ben Bien
This article does not necessarily represent the views of Girls Gone Wild.

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