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5 Signs You DON’T Really Need a Wingman

when picking up girls, you don't always need a wingman

After another night of drunken debauchery, your sarcastic narrator here on the GGW blog reports that he successfully laid a sexy costumed girl under the stars, on an apartment building roof top. It was a majestic, memorable fuck, and it happened because I followed my own advice in yesterday’s article, How to Get Laid on Halloween.

But don’t mistake this as post-coital bragging. I almost went home empty handed because I tried to rely too heavily on a wingman, a wingman who I don’t even know that well. Long story short, the guy was totally smashed and botched not just one but two conversations I had set up with some scantily-clad sexy Halloween girls. I don’t blame him though, it was my fault for depending on that weak friendship for wingman support, and it was my fault for not being clear that he needed to keep it together. With that said, the events of Halloween 2013 taught me extremely helpful lessons, one of which challenges the misconception that wingmans will help you get laid. That’s not always true.

Here are the 5 signs you DON’T really need a wingman:

5. You already know how to have fun and meet new people on your own. A wingman helps you look less like a loner, sure, but that only matters if you care and feel self-conscious about being alone. Experiment with different situations, and learn how you can start conversations and meet new women by yourself as soon as you enter a room.

4. You’ve developed a “one man act” that’s appealing in a mysterious way. This is an extension of #5, and it’s a sign you’ve practiced being solo in social situations enough so that you are completely comfortable with it. Your “solo” status is a strength if you can instantly talk passed it without having to explain yourself. If you’re already funny, interesting and engaging, you don’t need a buddy to help you out.

3. You prefer meeting girls who are the “outsider” type. These are the kind who aren’t always the center of attention, and who also hang out by themselves even when they’re with a group.

2. Your wingman is either a total alcoholic, drug addict, cockblocker, or simply a goofball who can’t focus on the goal of meeting and bedding women. If ANY of these describe the friend(s) you’re with, you are definitely better off just going out and meeting women by yourself. At least if you fail, you can learn why the things you did and said didn’t work, without blaming your inept wingman.

1. You have so much game you can talk two girls into having a threesome. Yes, a threesome, as in yourself and two other girls. Why not? It is possible. And only you can know that this is possible by attempting it and succeeding. That success becomes an experience that creates a very strong foundation for your confidence, which means you’ll more likely close the deal on future threesomes successfully. If that’s the case, having a wingman is just inviting another variable for potential cockblockage or failure.

Closing Thoughts: The only time to really hang with a wingman is if he’s your real friend who you’ve known for years. You two should just be hanging out as bros having fun, telling stories and jokes over good food and drinks. That natural chemistry is enough to attract girls on its own without you having to consciously wingman each other. And if you are out to help each other get laid, you both clearly share that agreed upon goal. Otherwise, nut up and try going at by own independent self.

Written by Ben Bien
This article does not necessarily represent the views of Girls Gone Wild.

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