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HOW TO GET OUT OF THE FRIEND ZONE

How to Get out of the Friend Zone by Girls Gone Wild

Friend-zoned by that hot girl you like? Don’t worry, we’ll give you a way out of that pit. Why? Because it’s more fun outside of the friend zone. Simple as that. No one wants to be in the friend zone. It’s a sad place where dreams go to wither and die. And dreaming is all you’ll be doing there, instead of touching, kissing and sex, which are obviously better. With that said, are you ready to finally learn how to get out of the friend zone? Good. Let’s get started. Here’s a step by step guide, courtesy of the self-proclaimed professionals at Girls Gone Wild. Trust us, we know what we’re doing.

Step 1: Stop thinking about that girl who friend-zoned you. She should be thinking of you all day long, but if you think about her more than she thinks about you, then you’re setting yourself up for failure. She’ll also know it and get the vibe that you’re a wuss because if you think about her often, you’re probably contacting her excessively.

Step 2: Next, make this the most recent thing you say to her: “it’s been fun hanging out and talking, but I have to focus on some projects right now.” From there, stop calling, texting, IMing, facebooking or whatever you do to keep in touch with her. That’s right: completely severe all communication with her in a sudden away. But make sure you tell her in a mysterious way that you’re going off to do something important and awesome. Women love mystery and guys who focus on projects, improve themselves, and get things done. Why are girls attracted to athletes and musicians? Because those dudes focused on learning and becoming good at something, even if they aren’t the absolute best.

Step 3: Okay, now it’s time to actually go do interesting things that challenge you and keep you busy. Make sure the mutual friends you share with your dream girl eventually find out and mention these things to her. For example, if you pick up an instrument, join a band and play a few gigs, you should mention it casually to those friends, but don’t tell her. You don’t want to tell that you’re doing something for her because she’ll feel like you’re not authentically interested in that new skill. The point is, find out what’s interesting and challenging to you, and start doing it. This will take time and work, but it’s definitely better than doing nothing and day dreaming about that girl you just can’t seem to “get anywhere with”.

Step 4: After months, maybe even a year or two of doing your own thing and getting good at it, you should have picked up some steam by now and have something to show for yourself. You have more of a grasp of who you are and what you enjoy doing. This will increase your confidence by leaps and bounds, and you’ll feel comfortable and proud in your own skin. Overcome a challenge and you’ll have more of a solid, charismatic personality, which girls love–including that one you ignored all this time.

Step 5: Get in touch with those mutual friends and go out with them. If you’re doing something that allows you to perform your new talent, like surfing or racing motorcross bikes, even better. Invite those friends to the event. They’ll probably also invite that girl you liked and still have an eye for. When she comes to the event, that’s when you get to show her the new you. It doesn’t have to be an event, it could just be a get together or a small party. Invite your mutual friends and her over for a small party. From there, just talk about what you’ve been up to, what you’re currently working on and how you’re making progress. Just don’t brag. Be a part of the conversation, then lead it. She’ll see you in a new light as a strong, confident guy who’s doing what he loves, and that sends good signals to a girl. Most likely, she’ll be attracted to you. If not, then there wasn’t ever any chemistry to begin with, and you should move on once you recognize that fact.

The point is, getting out of the friend zone takes work and time. But that’s not “bad”. There’s nothing wrong with work if it’s work you enjoy doing and that you find valuable for yourself and others. Like cinematography? Cool, get a camera, make some amateur movies and share them online. Enjoy music? Learn how to play. Love the beach? Pick up surfing. Curious about business? Start one. Doing things and staying active helps you become a more attractive, interesting person. Not doing anything will make you boring and you’ll never get what you want in life, especially that girl you like. If you’re in this situation, now you know the true way to get out of it. Yes, you’re welcome.

Written by Ben Bien
This article does not necessarily represent the views of Girls Gone Wild.

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