Quantcast

Girls Gone Wild Blog

The Art Of The Pick-Up

The art of pick up

From the time I was in high school until I started Love Systems, I was the king of “Let’s Just be Friends.” I was either the greatest potential friend on the planet… or women found me nice enough but not sexually desirable. Since few of these women followed up “Let’s Just Be Friends” with friendly invitations to come around to parties and meet their hot friends any contact at all, I’m going to have to go with door #2. The problem was a lack of SEXUALIZATION. Emotional Progression without Physical Progression = Let’s Just Be Friends So, how do you turn things sexual (physically progress) and avoid the dreaded “friend zone?” Here are three of the many sexualization techniques you can use……READ MORE

 

#1: “Baiting”

 

After you’ve developed a bit of mutual attraction, start throwing out low-level “bait” to see if she bites. A good baiting statement should be light and playful, and usually ambiguous. You can use baiting to test whether a woman has a sexual vibe, especially a sexually submissive vibe. A good example: the first time you’re giving a woman a tour of your house, casually point at a closed door and jokingly say, “that’s the stairs down to the dungeon.” There’s a certain look a woman will give you if you do that right (and if she’s the right girl to begin with). It’s like you gave her the secret handshake. She’ll look back at you for a couple of seconds, wondering if you “get it” or if you just accidentally stumbled on the right words. When she does this, hold eye contact, and don’t react. Wait for her to say the next thing. Some women will be intrigued and make a sexual comment in return. Others won’t – but you don’t lose any ground with them because it’s an ambiguous statement that could be taken in many different ways. “Baiting” is how women flirt too, so be on the lookout for things she might be “joking” about or things that could have a double meaning.

 

“A good baiting statement should be light and playful, and usually ambiguous.”

 

#2: Role-plays

 

Role-plays are great because they give you the freedom to enter territory that might be harder or inappropriate to enter “on the level.” For example, I often tell a woman I’ve recently met that she’s amazing and fun and I’m going to take her around the world, packed in my suitcase. She’ll usually laugh and respond in the context of the role play – like “only if the suitcase goes first class.” Further conversation jokingly planning our trip still makes her feel some of the emotions that she’d get when thinking about traveling the world with someone she likes. One great technique is roleplaying when the relationship is ALREADY sexual. Tell her you were a sweet innocent guy before she tore your virginity away from you. The key with role-plays is that they be over-the-top. Unlike bait, you want to remove the ambiguity over whether or not you’re serious. You can even make this more advanced and frame her as the aggressor. Let’s say you and her have a sexual conversation going. Then, all of a sudden you say “Whoa… slow down… before you started seducing me three times a day, I was a virgin boy from Oklahoma, remember?”

 

#3: False Barriers

 

This is killer. If you create false barriers why the two of you can’t have sex, her inclination will be to knock those down. For example: “We can’t have mad, passionate toe-curling sex all night… even though it would be fun, don’t get me wrong… because I bet you’re a bad kisser / you seem like a really ‘nice’ girl and we should find you a ‘nice’ sweet guy / etc.“ Now, if you’re going to be challenging about it (e.g., she’s a “bad kisser”) make sure you’re obviously teasing and you’ve already given her some compliments (you’re already in the Qualification Stage). And it should go without saying, but you definitely should never tease her or be challenging about something physical the two of you have already done.
Another example: “It’s a shame I don’t know you very well, because you’re very sexy.” One of our lead instructors, Braddock, uses a great “it will be all fights and make up sex” routine. Why does this work? Partly because it flips the script. Women are used to being
on defense – the guy wants sex, she has the reasons not to, and we’ll see if he gets past them. But, if you’re on defense, her natural inclination will be to go on offense (especially if the barriers are silly but remotely plausible). It’s hard to be on offense and defense at the same time, so while she’s beating down your objections, she won’t have space to bring up her own. Try out these techniques on your next night out, and don’t get caught in the “Let’s Just Be Friends” zone again.

 

Download the Digital Version Now!

 

Fan us Facebook

 

Follow us on Twitter

 

Plus us on Google

 

 

 

Share: